The Unexpected


Life doesn’t always go as expected, does it?

If you feel like we’ve been MIA for awhile, you’re correct. It’s been over a week since our last post and the days since have been pretty crazy ones for Scott and I.

We left last Thursday evening on a trip to London, super excited about a visit with our daughter Cait, and her family. We intended to return this coming Friday, and had a few new recipes tucked away to share while we were gone. We’d also planned to share photos and experiences from our time in London.

Sometimes the best laid plans just don’t work out though. On Friday, Scott’s 94 year old father, who we assist in taking care of, was rushed to the ER via EMS for breathing difficulties. He was hospitalized for several days, then released on Monday. Scott’s brother from California flew in to pinch hit for us in the midst of this emergency situation, and it seemed like things were beginning to calm down when we got another call. This time it was about his mom.

Nanny (as we’ve called her ever since our children were born), left this world on Monday, very unexpectedly. Although she would have celebrated her 93rd birthday in April, she was unbelievably healthy. Every time we took her for a physical, the doctors would remark how fit she was for her age. In the end, her heart just wore out. We aren’t made for this world, are we?

We have lots of great memories of “Nanny”.  She loved to garden and had an incredible green thumb. In fact, I chose the picture at the top of this post because it reminded me of her beautiful back yard flower gardens that amazed me when Scott and I first met. She had a whole bed of cyclamens that looked like it should have won a home and garden award! Houseplants also would thrive under her loving attention and she had a few of them for more than 3o years!

She also loved music and and all things “arts”. Scott often tells the story that, if there was an arts event; drama, music, dance or art show anywhere near where they lived growing up, he and his mom would be in attendance. She was the one who  passed that wonderful gift down to Scott, who taught music, drama, photography and video production for years, before retiring. Yet, even now his “artistic bent” graces the pages of The Café. Thanks Nanny!

Scott and I were able to change our flight and we’re actually high in the sky right now, winging our way home. We’re still in a bit of a state of shock, and just wanted to let you know that we’ll be taking a short blogging break. We’ll be back, but right now, we have lots of details to attend to and will need some time to help Scott’s dad adjust. Thanks for reading and helping us remember Nanny!

89 thoughts on “The Unexpected”

  • Dear Chris and Scott I am sorry to hear about your loss know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Scott’s mom has left a wonderful legacy it shows in the beautiful photography you both share with all of us. The memories will always with you as well as Scott’s mom will always be in your hearts.

  • Oh my goodness! Scott and I want to express our heartfelt appreciation for all the kind and encouraging comments. We have really felt loved by people from all over the world. Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us!

  • I’ve been away and just now am reading your post, Chris. I’m so sorry for your loss. Scott’s mom sounds like a beautiful lady and how lucky you are to have had such a fun mother-in-law! My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  • So very sorry to hear about Scott’s mom. Praying that in the midst of missing her you can rejoice that she is enjoying being with Jesus face to face.

  • My sincere condolences to you and Scott. Such a beautiful tribute. Please take care of yourselves during this difficult time. ((Hugs))

  • I was very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother Scott. My prayers are with you and your family through this diffcult time. Am going to miss your postings but understand completely that you need your own time to help your father.

  • Prayers for you and your family! As you said, we are not made for this world, and it is a such a comfort to know that Nanny (and all the loved ones who have blazed the trail for us), are in the place we are made for!

  • My heartfelt condolences, Scott and Chris! There is never a good time for an emergency, but emergencies while traveling far from home add a whole new level of stress. Wishing your hearts the healing that comes from faith, love, and cherished memories.

  • I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I pray the love of God would comfort and give you and your family peace during this time.

  • So, so sorry Chris and Scott. It sounds like you were both blessed to have Nanny in your lives and for such a good long time. Take care of yourselves during this difficult transition and my condolences to Scott’s dad also.

    • Thank you for sharing yourselves with us, your world-family. It’s really warming to let us share your treasured memories.

    • My heart goes out to you. My father was 93 and he also passed away on Monday. As you, we were so blessed to have him in our lives for all the years God allowed us to have. He is now with our mom and our Lord and I know very happy. I pray for God’s peace and comfort for you and your family in the difficult days, months and years ahead.

  • My heart goes out to you. So much has happened to you in such a short time. I am so sorry and will keep you in my prayers.

  • So sorry for your loss and I pray that you’ll be comforted by the dear memories you hold. Thank you for keeping us informed and take all the time you need. We’ll be here when you get back.

  • My deepest condolences to both Scott, his father and you, Chris! What a sad way to end such a happy trip. We just lost my mother-in-law last year right after I broke my wrist. Things do have a way of piling up so please take care of yourselves and take all the time you need.

  • So sorry for your loss. It’s a challenge to care for loved ones and yet have time for self care. I can see that Nanny will be truly missed and celebrated. Take care, hope your visit was relaxing.

  • Oh my goodness, I am so very sorry. Thank you for sharing your memories with us – Nanny certainly raised a talented and wonderful son. I hope you are able to rest and make sense out of this new “normal”. I know you’ll be busy helping everyone in the family adjust. We’ll all be here, when it’s the right time for you to come back. Sending hugs and prayers.

  • So sorry for your loss.What a beautiful legacy your loved one left.How wonderful for her to teach her son such an appreciation for the arts.It is so often seen in the photos you all share of your journeys.Which is why I began following this blog.I LOVE gardening!But,I became too ill too attend to my ,”babies”.That was in Wisconsin.Am much healthier now,but live in Arizona.Not quite the same for gardening.So,best wishes to you both,and may she keep on gardening up there with the angels!!

  • Chris & Scott, I want to say Thank you for sharing. I wish I knew you in person so that I could give you a hug. I feel such a connection to you. You folks are the most lovely couple. When I find myself grieving, I always turn to Psalm 23. My very good friend reminded me just yesterday, (in her broken English), “God didn’t create us to live forever”. I lost my dear Mother In Law a few years ago just a month before she turned 93. A rainbow appeared over the facility that she was in moments before she passed & I just know that she sent that for her loving family as sign to remind us it to grieve, but to cherish every day we had together. Love & hugs.

  • Praying for all of you that the Lord will take your sadness and fill your hearts with His peace that passes all understanding.

  • I am so sorry for your loss. When our life journey ends,God calls us home to Him. I am praying for you and your family. God bless you all.

  • So sorry to hear about Scott’s Mom& his Dad’s health scare. It is never easy to lose a loved one.
    God bless all of you.

  • Wow! Condolences!
    Take your time, catch your breathe.
    Will be patiently waiting for your return.
    You have the best recipes!

  • Chris and Scott, I am so very sorry. I am sending condolences to you both and Scott’s family and hoping that his Dad can make a complete recovery. Life is a roller coaster, we all realize that. God bless you two lovely people.

  • Oh I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to your Dad and the family. Yes, life is unexpected, every moment counts and a lifetime full of amazing memories helps us continue our own journey. Blessings to you all.

  • So sorry for the loss of your beloved Nanny! You spoke so lovingly of her that it touched my heart. I pray for you all in this most difficult time and I pray for a speedy recovery for Scott’s dad. We will all be here when you feel ready to return .

  • Nanny sounded like a wonderful mother, grandmother and mother-in-law. My condolences to you and Scott. Unfortunately, I know the heartache of losing one’s parent. May dear Nanny rest in peace.

  • My sincere condolences to you and your family on the loss of your loved one. “Nanny” sounded like a delightful lady.

    There’s one more star up in the sky tonight.
    Even though it is far away,
    its brightness and warmth
    still reach us here
    to make the night a little less dark.

  • Chris and Scott, I am so sorry about your Nanny and your Dad’s scare as well. It is so hard to get those calls! Will be praying for you all as you plan for her funeral and help her husband of all these years to adjust as well. What a blessing to have had them both here in town with you all. I certainly can attest to the talent of music that Nanny left to Scott and I can say also I miss getting to participate with you all in celebrating those gifts. Love and prayers for this difficult time. Dixie

  • Aging parents both deserve and command our attention when their end of life crises occur. You have responded the way any loving offspring and family would. We will all be here when you return. My deepest condolences in this time of sadness.

  • I am so sorry to hear this news Chris and Scott. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. She sounds like a wonderful woman and I am sure she will be greatly missed. Hugs.

  • Deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved “Nanny”. She will be in your thoughts whenever you see beautiful flowers and lovely art. She is gone but definitely remembered

  • Dear Chris and Scott. Although still very cold here in Winnipeg, Canada warm thoughts are being sent to you. Let all of us who love you send thoughts of beautiful and comforting food and friendship to nourish you at this difficult time as you have done for all of us over the months and years.

  • Dear Scott & Chris & Family,
    Very sad news indeed. Praying God’s Strength & Comfort as you go through this difficult time. So very sad for Scott’s Dad who probably always thought he would go first because Nanny was in such good health.

    Thank you for taking the time to share about this. Praying for all of you.

    Love & Blessings,

    Chip & Patti

  • Dear Chris and Scott. Although still very cold here in Winnipeg, Canada, warm thoughts are being sent to you now and in the coming days. Let us all who love you send thoughts of beautiful and comforting food and friendship to nourish you at this time as you have done for all of us over the months and years.

  • Sharing this time of sadness and loss from Australia. It’s always hard to loose someone so special , at any age.
    God knows the plans He has for us. It’s that the best news. May you know Gods peace today and days ahead, and with dad too. Xx Margy

  • So very sorry for your loss. We recently loss both my father-in-law and mother-in-law (both in their late 90″s), so we understand what you
    are going through. We feel blessed they had lived a long and happy life. I hope all your wonderful memories of Nanny will bring you and your family comfort during this difficult time. Sending thoughts and prayers to you, Scott, and his father. Hugs to you both!

  • What a shock for you all. I am so sorry for your loss. May GOD comfort you and give you the Peace that passes all understanding.

  • Dearest Scott and Chris: Our prayers and sympathies to you and your families, as you walk through this journey of earthly loss. In our hearts, we have joy that your “Nanny” is happy and well, and builds your Heavenly home. We very patiently wait for your return when you’re ready. God bless.

  • So very sorry for your loss. Looking forward to reading some recipes from your beloved Nanny. Food brings us all together and traditions and memories of special holiday meals will keep her for generations. Love and prayers for you, Scott and your family.

  • Oh Chris, I am so sorry for your loss, Scott’s father, and having to cut your trip short…it is not easy taking care of aging parents, and Nanny was blessed to have lived such a long and healthy life. Your family is in my prayers…

  • Chris, we are so sorry to hear of the passing of Scott’s mom. What a lovely post remembering her. We will be praying for you.

  • Chris and Scott I’m so sorry for your loss. Cherish the fond memories of Nanny. Sending prayers to you and the family.

  • So sorry for your loss. Will miss your posts but understand that you have many other priorities and personal issues that take priority right now. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

  • So sorry for you both, Chris and Scott <3 I know how difficult all this must be for you. From what you say both Scott's parents have had long and healthy lives, I always try to think about that during these times. Don't worry about being away from "The Cafe", we'll all be waiting right here for you when you get back. And don't forget to take care of yourselves during this intense period ~ sending lots of love!

  • My sincere sympathies to you both..
    ..what an extraordinary life Nanny had♥

    So much going on..his dad will feel the loss so dad was in the hospital the day my mom passed away at 55..

    so hard it was to go and tell him:(

    Thinking of you..


  • So sorry for your loss. Your remembrances shared here, show what a special woman Nanny was. I know you have precious memories that will keep her alive in your hearts forever. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  • So sorry for your loss and my sympathy to all of your family. It sounds like you have wonderful memories which should help to carry you through this sad time. God bless.

  • I am so sorry for this untimely loss. Please know that there are folks known ad unknown praying for you and the many things that will be required of you in this transition. It is never easy to lose a loved one, but wonderful to remember…..

  • Scott and Chris,
    So sorry for your loss of Nanny. She must have been an incredible, Mother, wife, and Grandmother! Your thoughts of her certainly indicates so. May the beautiful memories hold her dear in you heart until you meet again in heaven.
    I enjoy your post and your recipes and photos are a delight! Will miss you until you are back again.

    Prayers and Blessings,

  • What a blessing to have had her in your life for so long…I lost my beloved mother in law several years ago.Every time I pull out her heavy cast iron pot, which was her mothers, I feel the connection. Thoughts and prayers going your way, from South Florida.

  • Chris, my heart is breaking for your family right now. I am so sorry for your loss. Such a beautiful tribute to your mother in law; and I can see her lovely influence in many areas on your wonderful blog. Keeping you and Scott in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of each other. Warm hugs to you both.

  • I’m so sorry for your loss. I just lost my grandpa a couple weeks ago. He was a very healthy 98 year old with such a sharp mind!! So, I totally understand how you both feel like. Memories keep coming up in my mind and filling my heart… I’m telling myself it is OK to miss him. But at the same time, I would like to celebrate his good long life 🙂 May the Lord grace with you and your family <3

  • Chris you and Scott are in my prayers. This is very sad news indeed. May you find peace in those wonderful memories and that she had a life well lived. Thinking of you and your family during this time and praying for Scott’s father. Please accept our deepest condolences.

  • The best laid plans of mice and men are always subject to change. Sorry for your loss, take the time you need, we will be all waiting for your recipes and humourous stories when you are ready.

  • I am so sorry for the loss of Nanny; she sounds like a wonderful woman who will be missed in many ways. Take care of yourselves and your family during this difficult time and we’ll hear from you when you are ready.

  • I am so very sorry! You are right when you said we are not made for this world. She seems like a totally delightful lady, cultured and charming. I know this will be so hard for both of you. Take care, my friends, and may God be with you.

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